Can You be a gay christian
“I love Jesus and I’m a lesbian,” were the exact words I heard, and I will never forget them. More importantly, I believed her when she said them. Not only do I believe she loves Jesus, but I believe Jesus loves and accepts her just the way she is. I personally want to know more about gay Christianity.
A couple of weeks ago, I went to a concert with a friend. I very rarely get a night out. Not wanting our night to end, we went to have a drink while we waited for our Lyft. Our bartender poured us a drink and went about her business. My friend and I sat at the bar talking about the goodness and sweetness of Jesus. Courtney, our bartender, overheard our conversation and out of nowhere she said, “that’s my favorite name!” As I turned to look at her she boldly and unapologetically proclaimed, “yep, I love Jesus AND I am a lesbian!”
I HAD TWO CHOICES IN THAT MOMENT
Choice one: Two years ago I would have argued curiously, but still self-righteously that it wasn’t possible, because the Bible clearly says… homosexuality is a sin. If you would like to do your own research on the original word Paul used, you may do that here. I have studied the Scriptures and the term Paul used more strongly suggests pedophilia. For references on all the other scriptures that mention homosexuality I have found this article to be very in depth and insightful. You will find yourself surprised when you do an in depth study of the Scriptures.
Choice two: Today, I can lean in and ask her to tell me more. Tell me how you relate to Jesus and how He relates to you. Tell me how you met Him. Tell me your Jesus story, friend. You see, I’m learning how to look for the face of God in each and every human. I’m learning to search for the fingerprint of God within every person’s story.
I will tell you, I have been warned gently and not so gently, that if I continue down this path of inclusivity and my belief that God is only love that I will find myself outside the grace of God. I will bring upon myself the judgment of God that I no longer fear in any way. I stand on the promise that perfect love drives out fear and there is no fear in love. I also stand on this promise… that there is nothing that can separate us from the love of God, neither height nor depth, neither angels nor demons, neither the past nor the present, nor anything in all of creation can separate us from the love of God, in Christ Jesus, not even sexual orientation. I have stood in the presence of all God’s goodness, light, love, and compassion and I ask myself every day, why He gave me such a beautiful experience. He has given me a voice and this tiny little platform, and I intend to honor the gift I’ve been given by proclaiming all of His goodness towards every single human.
HOW DO WE BRIDGE THE GAP BETWEEN THE CHURCH AND LGBTQ?
I will not tell you what you should or shouldn’t believe but I will say this; our culture is changing rapidly. We can choose to engage the culture in which we live with an attitude of love, honor, and curiosity towards the very people who have been created in the image of Christ or we can continue to be the gatekeepers. I may not know much, but I know my Jesus and hurling all these daggers of shame and condemnation towards His creation is not the Jesus way. There are actual human hearts on the other side of these issues that some so fervently speak against.
SOME SUGGESTIONS TO LOVING OTHERS one MAY NOT UNDERSTAND
~Look to Jesus. So many times throughout the Scriptures the religious elite attempted to entrap Him. He never once wielded the sword of judgment or accusation. All too often those who were accusing walked away indignant. Lauren Diagle was asked her stance on homosexuality and she did not take the bait…Tsk Tsk Tsk with fingers wagging and heads shaking so many disappointments arose, feeling as though she missed her golden moment to stand up for the gospel. She’s letting the culture shape her rather than shaping the culture they say… No, she has allowed Jesus to shape her therefore she feels no need to shame or condemn anyone.
~Listen more. Talk less. Get curious. Have eyes to see and ears to hear… Jesus is everywhere when you’re looking for Him. He is especially in the faces of those you would least expect to find Him. Rather than needing to be right in your beliefs, maybe sit and listen to another person’s story.
~Lay your swords down. It’s not our job to defend the gospel. Our job is to be light, do justice, love mercy, walk humbly with our God, and to love our neighbors, even and especially when their lives look different than what we think they should. The rainbow is a sign of God’s promise. It’s time we take it back! I can’t help but giggle and wonder how ironic it is that maybe just maybe gay Christians are included in that promise.
~Stop judging. Jesus says we cannot love Him who we have not seen if we don’t love those whom we do see. We are not loving others if we are secretly or even openly judging them or their lifestyle. Again, I watched in absolute shock and horror as Lauren Diagle was criticized and attacked for appearing on the Ellen show. What in the holy hell is happening?
~Allow God to stretch you and surprise you. Take a lesson from the Pharisees, who knew the scriptures better than anyone. They not only missed but also killed the very God those scriptures spoke of.
~Whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven. I don’t know about you, but I am going to use my time on earth to sow the things that matter like love, mercy, kindness, grace, and radical acceptance, so that I can experience heaven here and now, not just after I die. When I do meet my maker I rest assured that I sowed on earth everything I want to also experience in Heaven.
*Side note: the kingdom of Heaven is not just a future destination. It is also here and now, living inside our hearts. It’s our posture towards the world that God created… on earth as it is in Heaven.
~Ask God for revelation. Ask Him to help you see others as He sees them. Ask Him to give you a heart of compassion rather than condemnation. Ask him to show you the God story in every individual. If you haven’t read my story you can learn more by clicking here. One could easily look upon my life and say that girl was so far from God, but the beauty in my story is that it’s also more than evident that God was never far from me.
Friends, the gospel is good news for all, not gloom and doom. When Courtney nearly shouted to a bar full of people that she loves Jesus and she’s a lesbian, I couldn’t help but think that I was standing on Holy ground, in front of a fiery burning bush that was not consumed. She was proclaiming the good news of the gospel, that as far as the east is to the west, IT IS FINISHED. All who choose to come are welcome.
“You can’t tell people what to be, I’m afraid. You can only love and support who they already are.” Quote by Laurie Frankel, This Is How It Always Is.
We overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony. Courtney obviously has a testimony, because she can openly say, “Jesus is my best friend.” I, for one, want to know more of her story, and every story of how the God of love draws people in, showers them with never-ending love, puts no conditions on His love, and has no agenda other than to love. Period. What about you? Does this make you curious, or does it make you uncomfortable? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments. If you choose to unfollow after this post, I will be sad to see you go, but where the Spirit leads I must follow.